Marriage Colors

Well, here is just a random thing for right now.


The Five Married Types/Marriage Colors

Probably somewhere in the vicinity of 90% of marriages can be defined by a married type, or “marriage color”. These definitions show mostly the negative side of each marriage color simply because it is easier to identify ourselves and others by weakness rather than strength. What is your marriage color?




Marriage Color Statements


This is not a test, and will not "certainly" determine your marriage color. These statements should give you an idea of which color your marriage is. If you get stuck, it's best to ask someone close to you what they see in you.


The best way to use this guide is to read each set of statements and decide which one sounds most like you and your spouse. Be completely honest - if you need to, don’t tell anyone which statements you selected.  They are divided two different ways.

In the first part, each set is made up of like statements. Decide which statement from each group speaks to you, and see which color you chose most often.

In the second part, each of the statements are grouped by like marriage colors. Decide which whole set speaks to you.

The first and second parts are plain, and when you are finished you can scroll down to the following sections to see which colors you chose.



Pick one statement from each group::

* I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is true.
* I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is sometimes not true.
* It is not important to me whether others think we get along, because that is not our goal.
* I am confident that if others see us together, they will just see that we get along for the most part.
* I do not pretend to get along with my spouse, because we always argue and it is a losing battle.


* I would describe our marriage as successful, no matter what.
* I would describe our marriage as successful, depending on my mood or who I'm talking to.
* Our marriage is successful.
* Marriage takes time to perfect, and we are working on it being 100% successful.
* Our marriage is not successful.


* I think of my spouse as a romantic lover.
* I think of my spouse half the time as my friend, and half the time as my enemy.
* I think of my spouse as my partner.
* I think of my spouse  as my equal and best friend.
* I think of my spouse as someone who brings me down.


* My partner would never lie to me.
* We lie to each other sometimes but we make up and have honest periods, too.
* We do not lie to each other.
* I know when my spouse is lying because he does so from time to time.
* My spouse lies to me constantly.


* My best friend would tell you that we are very in love.
* My best friend doesn’t even know what we really go through.
* My best friend would tell you that our marriage is successful.
* My best friend would tell you that we have a very healthy marriage.
* My best friend would tell you how horrible things are for me.






Pick one group of statements::
* I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is true.
I would describe our marriage as successful, no matter what.
I think of my spouse as a romantic lover.
My partner would never lie to me.
My best friend would tell you that we are very in love.


* I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is sometimes not true.
I would describe our marriage as successful, depending on my mood or who I’m talking to.
I think of my spouse half the time as my friend, and half the time as my enemy.
We lie to each other sometimes but we make up and have honest periods, too.
My best friend doesn’t even know what we really go through.


* It is not important to me whether others think we get along, because that is not our goal.
Our marriage is successful.
I think of my spouse as my partner.
We do not lie to each other.
My best friend would tell you that our marriage is successful.


* I am confident that if others see us together, they will just see that we get along for the most part.
Marriage takes time to perfect, and we are working on it being 100% successful.
I think of my spouse  as my equal and best friend.
I know when my spouse is lying because he does so from time to time.
My best friend would tell you that we have a very healthy marriage.


* I do not pretend to get along with my spouse, because we always argue and it is a losing battle.
Our marriage is not successful
I think of my spouse as someone who brings me down.
My best friend would tell you how horrible things are for me.
My spouse lies to me constantly.












Find which statements you chose from each group::




I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is true.
I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is sometimes not true.
It is not important to me whether others think we get along, because that is not our goal.
I am confident that if others see us together, they will just see that we get along for the most part.
I do not pretend to get along with my spouse, because we always argue and it is a losing battle.


I would describe our marriage as successful, no matter what.
I would describe our marriage as successful, depending on my mood or who Im talking to.
Our marriage is successful.
Marriage takes time to perfect, and we are working on it being 100% successful.
Our marriage is not successful.


I think of my spouse as a romantic lover.
I think of my spouse half the time as my friend, and half the time as my enemy.
I think of my spouse as my partner.
I think of my spouse  as my equal and best friend.
I think of my spouse as someone who brings me down.


My partner would never lie to me.
We lie to each other sometimes but we make up and have honest periods, too.
We do not lie to each other.
I know when my spouse is lying because he does so from time to time.
My spouse lies to me constantly.


My best friend would tell you that we are very in love.
My best friend doesn’t even know what we really go through.
My best friend would tell you that our marriage is successful.
My best friend would tell you that we have a very healthy marriage .
My best friend would tell you how horrible things are for me.




Find which group of statements you chose::




I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is true.
I would describe our marriage as successful, no matter what.
I think of my spouse as a romantic lover.
My partner would never lie to me.
My best friend would tell you that we are very in love.


I often find it important to let others know how well we get along because it is sometimes not true.
I would describe our marriage as successful, depending on my mood or who Im talking to.
I think of my spouse half the time as my friend, and half the time as my enemy.
We lie to each other sometimes but we make up and have honest periods, too.
My best friend doesn’t even know what we really go through.


It is not important to me whether others think we get along, because that is not our goal.
Our marriage is successful.
I think of my spouse as my partner.
We do not lie to each other.
My best friend would tell you that our marriage is successful.


I am confident that if others see us together, they will just see that we get along for the most part.
Marriage takes time to perfect, and we are working on it being 100% successful.
I think of my spouse  as my equal and best friend.
I know when my spouse is lying because he does so from time to time.
My best friend would tell you that we have a very healthy marriage.


I do not pretend to get along with my spouse, because we always argue and it is a losing battle.
Our marriage is not successful.
I think of my spouse as someone who brings me down.
My best friend would tell you how horrible things are for me.
My spouse lies to me constantly.


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Now, was it easy to decide which you were? Or were some of them inaccurate, or hard to admit?
The following is a blatant and simple breakdown of the five marriage colors:

The Dreamers (pink)
The couple that honestly believe they are the “perfect” couple. They never fight. They always are honest. He didn’t notice that beautiful large-breasted woman that walked by, and she would never spend part of the rent on the perfect pair of jeans while he was at work. They spend so much time trying to convince others that they are God’s gift to marriage that they begin to believe it, and this weakness leaves them more vulnerable than most couples because they are so oblivious. They can be identified by their dating relationship - they are the ones that said more than four times a week “I love my boyfriend/girlfriend” or referred to the other as husband or wife before they were actually married.

Strength:: In the attempt to make themselves “the perfect” couple, the Dreamers often do in fact have a marriage based on genuine respect for the husband and genuine love for the wife. They may make decisions based on how they think the “perfect” husband or wife would act,  and it is usually the right way even if it is not naturally inspired.



The Realist (teal)
The realists are unusual. They are probably the least common married type. These are the couples that are honest with each other - to a fault. They are so realistic with what marriage is and what to expect it can sometimes be their downfall. They can be swiftly humbled when they think they “have it all figured out.” They know the other will occasionally find another person attractive, and rather than be jealous, they are understanding. They assume that the troubles of the other married types will never come to them because they just know better what they are doing. Their weakness is their unsuspecting nature. They think they already know any possible problems that can come between them, so when they encounter something different, any outcome is possible. You will recognize this couple as the ones that let each other go to strip clubs, view pornography, hang out with the opposite sex, or even speak frequently about past flings.

Strength:: The realists are learners. They are ever adapting and learning from everything around them, which they can choose to use to their advantage. They are also infamous for having the strongest marriage bond, and one of “friendship” due to their honesty with themselves and each other.  In their heart lies almost always discernible love for each other, and the couple that does not “settle” for what is to be expected will truly stand the test of time.



The Monotonous Monogamists (gray)
This is the couple that is taken as “boring”. They don’t seem to like each other, although they never fight. They don’t kiss or act flirty around others. They often appear as they don’t actually love each other, but would also never divorce.  Most of the time, the “monotonous monogamists” are the ones who have been married a truly long time. In actuality, they have blossomed in their marriage and do not feel the need to “showboat” their relationship for others’ benefit, which makes them almost opposite to the dreamers. Most couples do not originate as this type. Their weakness is often lack of further relational development after a certain length of time. They can be identified as the couple that you had no idea were actually a couple.

Strength:: Although they can be the butt of negative affliction from others, there is usually no lack of honest and pure love in the MM marriage. Behind closed doors, no one is to know how beautiful and romantic their marriage may be. Since they are no longer in the habit of trying to “appear” a certain way to others, that act does not at all interfere with their relationship, putting them at a huge advantage over the rest.



The Dinevitables (crimson)
The Dinevitables are, in short, “divorce-inevitable.” They were broken from the start, they were in the wrong place at the wrong time when marriage occurred, and they are doomed. Counseling would do them good, but they won’t take it. They would rather blame each other and while sometimes taking some accountability, they still did the wrong things because of the other person. Their weakness is the most obvious - they are either cheating on each other, or fighting, or have become roommates; and sometimes, all of the above. You will know them as the people that, when they told you they got married, you thought to yourself, “oh man….why did they get married?” Followed years later by “That was a huge mistake.”

Strength:: The crimson marriage is a sad one. It will 99% of the time end in divorce or something equally terrible. The only real positive aspect is that most people who experience a Crimson marriage will not enter one twice. They come out better, stronger people and have the mental prowess to never make the same mistake again themselves, and can help others to see it before it happens as well.



The Flip Floppers/Drama-seekers (red)
The flip floppers are the second most common type of married couple, after the Dreamers. They are the couple that is so inexplicably happy together, they MUST shout it to the world. “We love each other so much that, well, just look at what we’ve done for each other!! Aren’t we so sweet and romantic and mature in our marriage?” And then a week later, they announce that they are headed for divorce. Why? The Flip Floppers thrive on drama. They are not believable as Dreamers or Dinevitables, so they put on a fa├žade to convince whichever party they are entertaining at any given time. For people that know them especially well, they will sometimes go from one to another and back several times in a month, as if trying to keep everyone on their toes. Their greatest weakness is their marriage in general. They get caught up to such a degree that their marriage becomes an illusion. Rather than getting divorced they will stay in an unhappy marriage for as long as they can keep people guessing. You will know them as the people you hide from, or roll your eyes at, or when you re-tell whatever they have recently told you, you will finish the story with “but who knows, with them.”

Strength:: The flip floppers have a bond much like that of the realists. Although the “thick and thin” of the marriage may be exaggerated, it makes the relationship they form with each other no less real. They are truly emotionally affected by everything that happens and it makes them stronger together, especially as they are the only ones who truly know where they stand with each other. They will stay together, no matter what, because they have grown on each other in a way that no one else will ever understand. If they can become honest with each other, they have nothing to worry about in their future. 

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